Married

i am getting marrieeeeeeeeeeeeeeedddddddddddddddddddddddddd   ……thank you Honey, love you sooo much.

 

PALESTINE

PALESTINE, MY HEART FOR YOU, MY TEARS FOR YOU, AND MY PRAYER FOR YOU.

ALL HUMANS WITH YOU.

 

SELAMAT LEBARAN IDUL FITRI, EID MUBARRAK, MINAL AIDIN????????

Sebelumnya ane mau ngucapin EID MUBARRAK ke setiap saudara muslim yang insya Allah merayakan idul fitri hari ini tanggal 1 oktober 2008.  seperti biasa habis sholat eid, my fam and I went to Balai RW untuk salam2 an ama orang sekampung. lumayan pegel tapi seneng juga, alhamdl lancar.

 

seperti biasa juga, kalimat yang sering terucap adalah: mohon maaf lahir dan batin, minal aidzin wal faidzin.

saya jadi bertanya-tanya, sejak kapan minal aidzin wal faidzin berarti maaf lahir dan bathin. yah karena seringnya bersandingan jadi orang asosiasinya frase bahasa arab itu artinya mohon maaf lahir dan bathin. padahal ini kalau kagak salah ustadzku jaman dulu pernah bilang itu artinya dari golongan yang kembali dan dari golongan yang menang.

naah jangan2 kita semua menyangka minal aidin wal faidzin berarti minta maaf lahir bathin…..???/ hehehehe.

terus bilang apa dong kalu lebaran,  rasul SAW selalu bilang gini nih kalau lagi idl fitr:

taqobbalallaahu minna wa minkum ( boleh ditambah: shiyamanaa wa shiyamakum , sahabat rasul yang kadang menambahkan).

artinya? lebih kontekstual dengan idl fitr:

semoga Allah menerima (ibadah ) ku dan kalian ( dan semoga ALLAH menerima puasa ku dan kalian) .

wallaahu a’lam

 

 

 

Praise to AllaH

Alhamdulillah

ROMADHAN telah datang, mudah-mudahan bisa berkhusyuk dan tidak menyia nyiakan hadiah Allah buat mahlukNYA.

selamat Romadhan dan selamat berhijrah dan  beruzlah.

 

kerjaku, ibadahku

kerja ternyata tidak selalu  mulus seperti yang aku bayangin sebelumnya. even if we work in the place that we have been dreaming of. selalu saja ada cobaan, ada senyum, excitement, semangat, persaingan, office gossip dan lain-lain.

just what i have experienced lately, the ‘turbulance” that hit the work atmosphere in my office. seemed like i could not bear it any longer. most of the time the problem that my crew and I face is miscommunication, misunderstanding, not to mention jealousy among other workers. though i found it ridicolous to fuss  on such things, indeed, they exist; feel like blowing my head and my adrenalin.

hm, yang sering kita lupakan ketika menghadapi berbagai macam masalah yang bertubi-tubi itu biasanya justru hal-hal yang invisible, yang gak keliatan, misalnya sprituality at work. padahal dengan lebih berpegang pada sisi spritualitas kita bisa jauh lebih tenang dan mampu melihat akar permasalahan, bukan hanya “casing” nya ajah. jika memang kerja dilandasi untuk ibadah secara jujur dan ikhlas, segala macam kesulitan akan terasa lebih ringan dihati dan we could be much more open-minded.

lagipula, setiap pekerjaan itu mempunyai resikonya sendiri-sendiri. gak mungkin kan kita selalu hepi dalam hidup kita. sudah sunnatullah bahwa hidup itu penuh warna, jadi kuncinya adalah pada hati. dan kunci hati adalah pada spiritualitas. boleh saja sih main logika, tapi dalam lapangan kita sering kan mendapati, kecerdasan emosi itu jauh lebih bisa mengatasi semua kesulitan. jadi cintailai pekerjaan kita tidak hanya ketika kondisinya sedang menyenangkan, menggairahkan, inspiratif, tetapi juga ketika semua seginya sedang “down”. By the time we pass all da crises, we could be more convinced, stronger, more systematical than ever.

diluar semua itu, jika kerja dimaksudkan untuk ibadah, maka jalan kita insya Allah akan selalu lurus no matter how many intersections and temptations are there.

 

met lebaran

taqobalallaahu minna wa minkum, taqobbal yaa Kariim

 

BERKATA DENGAN BAIK

Berkata dengan baik atau diam.

easy to say, hard to do

 

MarHaban Yaaa Romadhan

Marhaban yaa Romadhan

Month of God’s blessings,

The month full of shining paths to lead our way under God’s love.

Marhaban Yaa Romadhan, thank u God, for giving me another chance to live in this barokah month.

 

Metacognition in Islam

Having joined a training several weeks ago in UII FE i was like having great “enlightment”, :-)) . All the trainers were all psychiatrists and they delivered the training interestingly, probably cause i did not much get in touch with theories of psychology.

well, there was one thing that caught my attention, it was about metacognition.

i was trained how to reflect and control my mind, to feel the beats of my hearts and to see my “physic”, just like meditation. Basically all those trainings in metacognition session was about controlling ourseleves. logically, if we can sense our heartbeat, create mental image of us doing something perfectly in the future , then we can control ourselves and our minds on what we likely to do in da future, hmmm so it says. it is also believed that positive thinking on something or someone will end as good results.

frankly, this is not a new concept at all. i heard this thousand times in islamic values on how we are prohibited to have negative prejudies toward someone, and even Allah The Merciful recites in holly book; I am within my servant’s thought. then if one thinks that God is merciless then be it, he actually suggested himself that his God never likes him, rather likes to torture him.

nevertheless, it is our surrounding ; nurture and nature that usually contribute to the way we see God. take for example when a mother warns her son; ”

                        observe prayer!, or else God will get angry to you”

                       “Don’t do that!, or you’ll end up in  hell”

see, so many threats, so many bad news using God’s name. i never think that God Himself wants us to remember Him in this way.  why does not she say something like:

                        “kids, let’s observe prayer, God will be pleased and love you”

                        ” you’d better not do that or somebody will get hurt”

it is important that we put good name for God. not the vice versa.

then the kid raised with all scarry threats “from God” will find it difficult to see that God actually is the most merciful substance in his life, the one who can grant Every Single Hope and Prayer, the kid just failed to think like this.

then some treatment using metacognition probably will work best to lead this kid to the concept of beloving God. imagine if he has grown up with this concept all of his life time, he will desperate easily when facing block end of some problems. this nurture will also create mental illness people; those who have phobia to God, gosh!! phobia to God, cannot imagine it. You  LOVE God therefore you will not do something which He Forbides you to do.

yah i do believe in theory of carrot and stick.

but too many sticks will lead someone to stressfull life. and too many carrots will lead to ignorance… perhaps.

islam is about balance, between Hope and Fear to Allah, but what we see in this present surrounding, too many people try to give Allah bad names.

my writing maybe tends to disperse. but not much i think, still relating to the core issue.